Fulfillment of Spirit
by Amanda Bulgarelli,
PAC Chief Operating Officer
This month I wanted to start with the feeling of fulfillment of soul and spirit. As we leave the holiday season behind us, it gives us a chance to reflect. For me, the holidays mean two things: family and presents. I am fortunate to be able to be with my parents for the holidays, to continue the rituals and traditions I have had for my whole life, and to begin teaching them to my two sons. While Braden is still too young to really know what is going on, it fills my soul to see Benji’s face light up when he talks about Santa and Rudolph and snuggle in with me and Dan. While I’m past the age where I ask for presents (my big ask this year was to have a cleaning service come in and do a deep clean on the house!), I focus more on finding that just-right present for others. When Benji and I go shopping, he tells me he wants “that and that and that and that…” but what do I get that will be fun, foster his imagination, and make him happy for more than 30 seconds? For Braden? That’s easy – a cardboard box and some tissue paper.
When it comes to the rest of the family – brothers and sisters, in-laws, parents, significant others - the challenge is much more daunting. For the most part, adults have what they need, but is there something they would want? For my mom, I got her the peacock sweater pictured above (thanks for the suggestion, Lori!). It was beautiful and looked amazing on her, even though she wouldn’t have purchased it for herself, it made her very happy. When there isn’t an item as perfect as that, we generally opt for time together and experiences. Time spent together with friends and family, particularly when the kids can play and have fun, has helped heal and fill my soul time and time again.
For Teepa, a woman for whom sitting around and doing nothing is akin to torture, she saw my frustration with the kitchen in my house. She and Dick decided that they would take care of that for us. Having projects, working hard, and giving something to her daughter that made her happy, was certainly fulfilling to her.
So, this is one of my examples of healing and filling my soul. It won’t be the same for everyone, and that’s what this corner is all about. We hope to have people from different walks of life, different faiths, and different interests share what fills their soul. While this journal is devoted to spreading news and information about dementia, each article won’t necessarily have to be that. So rather than leave you with advice, I’ll leave you with a few questions…
What fills your soul?
What can you do to allow others to fill their spirits?
Are you ignoring a small annoyance that might be signifying a need for fulfillment?
Below are the before and after shots of the kitchen renovation.
The Snow clan (Dick, Teepa, Abby, Braden, Benji, and Seb) ripping apart the kitchen
Here are a few after pictures too for those of you that want to see it…